And in 2010 people sent 6.1 trillion texts across the planet, roughly 200,000 per minute.

In 2007 the number of texts exchanged in a month outnumbered the number of phone calls made in the United States for the first time in history. There are no longer any predetermined life paths.

The tools we use on this search is different, but what has really changed is our desires and-even more strikingly-the underlying goals of the search itself. Today people spend years of their lives on a quest to find the perfect person, a soul mate. Their families would meet and, after they decided neither party seemed like a murderer, the couple would get married and have a kid, all by the time they were twenty-two. A century ago people would find a decent person who lived in their neighborhood. In a very short period of time, the whole culture of finding love and a mate has radically changed. As I dug deeper, however, I realized that the transformation of our romantic lives cannot be explained by technology alone there’s much more to the story. When I started the project, I thought the big changes in romance were obvious-technological developments like smartphones, online dating, and social media sites. Quotes and Anecdotes: Stop going on Boring Ass Dates

What the professionals are saying: Vanity Fair’s review. The Freakonomics podcast that sold me on reading this book. Specifically, how do we go about looking for love when we are able to live virtually anywhere, and communicate with anyone at any time? This book is more a meditation than a how-to guide, and Aziz is insightful, compelling, and hilarious throughout.Ĭheck out Aziz’s hysterical Madison Square Garden special on Netflix (a couple YouTube bits relevant to this book: Making Plans With Flaky People and Creepy Dudes Are Everywhere). Teaming up with an academic sociologist ( Eric Klinenberg), and using focus groups from reddit and his comedy shows, he explores how dating works in modern times. This is a book that only Aziz Ansari could write and he does so brilliantly. Finding someone today is probably more complicated and stressful than it was for previous generations-but you’re also more likely to end up with someone you are really excited about.

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